In September I was served court papers. The parents where suing me for slander and solicitation because i asked them to pay me back for the cord blood. I was court ordered to stop using my online accounts and to keep my mouth shut about the case. My lawyer was amazing and keep me calm during this mess. My lawyer had told me that i would most likely never get to meet Ashley till she came looking for me, and that I should be happy with any contact that the parents allowed. He went thru everything that was in the adoption decree and found where the adoptive parents had REQUESTED that I be involved in every part of Ashley's life. That they wanted me to have unsupervised visitation with her and to have a say in her medical and educational. I had no idea about any of this. My lawyer presented it all to the judge saying that I only wanted to know that my daughter was ok, and to maybe meet her and spend time with her. That I was even ok with it being supervised visitation. The judge made the parents eat their own words in the long run. He ordered them to allow me to have visitation and to keep me updated on all Ashley's medical care and on her grades in school. I was shocked. I had never heard or known of a birth mother being granted any of this.
I got to meet Ashley. She was more amazing then I imagined. She looked liked her sperm donor, but had so much of me. She was super smart and wanted to know everything about me and her sister. She was in remission and wanted to meet her baby sister to thank her for saving her life.
Ashley passed away February 22, 2012 after being hit by a car on her way to school. I miss her, and feel like I wasn't a good mom for not being there to save her.
I was reading through some of my old blog posts and ran across the one I wrote about your sweet Ashley. I hope all is going well for you!
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